How many of you think that you know just about everything there is to know about sex? I’m talking about its history, form, and function. According to a Canadian study, most high school kids know a lot about casual sex. They know when it’s too risky, not appropriate, and how to keep themselves from getting personal with a designated booty call. However, there is a lot more to this delicate act, than keeping your lover at a comfortable distance from your heart. Let’s look at five of the most common myths about sex.
Once You Get Married You Can Kiss the Sex Good-Bye-
In a study involving cheating couples, it was discovered that the typical cheater blames their boring sex life on marriage, and the fact that their partner does not try hard enough. It is interesting to note that the cheater blames their partner primarily, even though they are just as much at fault for not taking the initiative to work on the relationship, rather than digging up new bed partners. To these naysayers, I remind them that most studies suggest that the average married couple has more sex than a swinging single. Why? Because they have anywhere from 25 to 300 percent more opportunities to do it. Finding a willing partner is always half the battle! It’s always best that you stay up to date on advice on relationship problems.
Men Think About Sex Every Seven Seconds
– Women often joke about this, because it always seems that their boyfriend has sex on his mind. Men have been influenced through evolution to be ready for sex at any given moment. When man-eating prehistoric chickens are a part of your daily life, you’ve got to enjoy the thrills of passion whenever the opportunity presents itself. Women often mistake this “Ready Freddy” attitude men have, with being obsessed with the thought of sex. However, the Kinsey Institute has a set of new numbers for you. Over half (54 percent) of all men think about sex only once a day. Forty-three percent spread their fantasy time to only a couple of times per week, and the remaining guys were lucky to think about it once a month.
Premature Ejaculation (PE) is Abnormal-
Men have been fighting this stigma for a long time, and it is time to set a few things straight. One, according to studies, the average guy is lucky to make it past the five-minute mark once the bell rings for the first round. I say first round, as some women are fortunate, and he will last longer the second time around. Two, men come from a long line of prehistoric hunters, who often fell prey to other bigger hunters (a.k.a. those burly prehistoric chickens). When you consider that something could be stalking you at any moment, scientists speculate that men had to get the job done quick. The more danger a guy suspected, the quicker he was, which explains why anxiety is still one of the leading causes of premature ejaculation.
If You Marry Your Sister, Your Kids Will Look Like X-Men
– I’m not condoning the marriage to one’s own siblings. However, there are some interesting studies about inbreeding that suggest it may not be as bad as what we learned in high school. In fact, a 30-year study that looked at the common practice of marrying into your own family in some Australian Aborigine tribes, found no abnormalities in their offspring. Well, I should rather say, they didn’t find any abnormalities that went beyond the typical handful of offspring who grew up to be one razor short of a Britney Spears haircut party.
Fantasizing About “Other People” During Sex Should Be a Deal Breaker
– If you consider that around 25 percent of Canadian men have fantasized about Barney the Purple Dinosaur (or equivalent) while enjoying an intimate moment with their partner, it shouldn’t surprise you that fantasizing about other people is actually quite common. In fact, over 90 percent of couples around the world actively engage in the art of imagining their partner as someone else. The most popular fantasies are not of Betty Boop or David Hasselhoff (Knight Rider) however, as the majority of people prefer the more realistic, and practical possibilities of seducing a friend, neighbor, or co-worker.
These are just a couple of the myths associated with sex. I welcome you to share some of your own myths you have either learned from studies, or discovered from your own experience.
Having grown up in a rather Y-chromosome deficient neighborhood, I spent my childhood playing house, Barbies (vs. G.I. Joe)… and the classic, Truth or Dare. Several years down the road, I attended Colorado State University where I earned four degrees in Psychology (emphasis on human sexuality), Social Sciences, English, and Theater Arts. I have since found myself putting my education to good use, writing relationship and sex advice articles for various books (Love, Lust, and Relationships (www.datingsite.org), magazine columns, and dating websites (www.datingwebsites.org).